At the start of each year, I set goals rather than resolutions, but I also name each year. For example, 2019 was “The Year of Feeling My Feelings.” Similarly, 2018 was “The Year of Growth.”
So, what is it that I have planned for 2020? It’s the “Year of Positive Thinking.”
All of these things are much easier said than done, and I challenge myself to build on this year name and the healthy new habit it brings.
With discouraging messages in some forms of media, or a constant urge to fit in or keep up, it can be easy to fall into a trap of negative thinking, which, as you might imagine, only begets more negative thinking. As much as I try to be optimistic, sometimes those bad thoughts win out, and this year, I am making a more conscious effort to do so.
How am I doing it? Here are my three quick steps.
Positive Mantras and Affirmations.
I am reminding myself of the things in life I am grateful for. I’m reminding myself that I am worthy of love and good energy. Some of my affirmations include:
“I am grateful for the life I lead, and the people in it, both good and bad. I am grateful for the love I receive and the difficulty I will be strong enough to overcome.”
“I am worthy of love, happiness, and calmness.”
“Today is a new day filled with opportunity, challenges, growth, and the chance for adventure. I am grateful for the experiences that come my way.”
Listing what I am grateful for.
It seems obvious, but thinking positively starts with understanding that even when things are going wrong, there are things to be grateful for! I make a list, either mentally or on paper each night, and literally count my blessings. The gravity of what I’m grateful for often surpasses the upset I might have over other things happening at that stage of my day or week, and I immediately feel better.
Showing appreciation to those I care for.
I am lucky to know incredible people in my social and professional circles. I am lucky to have a family that I adore. And sometimes, I don’t let them know often enough how much their help or guidance or friendship or love means to me. Making a more concerted effort to do so has improved my mood, and thus helped me not only think more positive thoughts, but to appreciate who I am surrounded by each day.
What are your goals for 2020? Whether they are short term or long term, I’d love to know. Message us on social media, or send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org to share.